Wedding season is in full swing and many newlyweds are finding out just how frustrating it can be to merge two households. If you’re like most couples and have two of everything – from kitchen utensils to sectionals – here are some stress-free tips on merging all your stuff:
Photo source: Flickr
Purge Before You Merge
First, take the time to go through your own belongings to get rid of excess stuff. Think you don’t have anything to get rid of? Think again. If you haven’t used it or worn it within a year, you don’t really need it. Make three separate piles: one to keep, one to toss, and one to donate. The more you can get rid of before you merge your stuff with your spouse’s, the better.
Once you’ve purged your own stuff, it’s time to take stock of what you have combined. Make note of any duplicate items (such as toaster ovens and towels) and choose which one you’d like to keep. Sometimes it’s an easy choice – especially if one item is in better condition than the other – but often, this task requires compromise. Try not to harbor a strong emotional attachment to your belongings. Remember, all that you’re gaining is so much more important than that old waffle iron.
Make a Plan
Next, take a good look at your space and make a decorating plan. Take measurements to determine what furniture will function best, and where. For example, your large sectional might not fit in your new space but his comfy sofa will work just fine. Furniture and items that are still in good condition can be sold or stored in a rented storage space. After all, you may find you need that sectional if you move into a larger space down the road.
Photo source: Flickr
So what if you like classic décor and he likes contemporary? One person’s style shouldn’t dominate the space or it won’t look like a shared home. Shopping together can help you find on a style that meets in the middle. Choose things that represent a combination of both personalities. Also, keep in mind that you don’t have to decorate your new space overnight. In fact, the most well-designed spaces evolve naturally over time.
Create a “Me” Space
Sharing a home doesn’t mean you have to compromise on everything. Designate specific areas for each spouse and make it your own. Does he spend more time in the den? Then let him adorn the space with his own favorite items. If she gravitates toward the home office, set it up with her personal décor style.
Marriage combines two lives and a whole lot of stuff! However, merging all that stuff doesn’t have to be stressful. Just take your time and remember to compromise.